This all happened in my new country, of course.
How would you feel if you were trying to do something (and you know why you were doing that) and a random neighbor/stranger told you that what you were doing was considered wrong and inappropriate?
Amused, irritated, freaked out, dumbfounded, perplexed, interested or something else?
Winter 2005 - I spent my entire cold season in Burlington, Vermont. I was a new fish in the pond, learning to walk in the deep snow, learning to dress properly in the winter, learning to taking a bus to work to the homeless family shelter, learning that life could be cold and that that was o.k
Then, one day, it was not o.k.
I walked from my apartment to the bus stop on a typical heavy snow day, and I didn' t want to get wet. I took an umbrella to protect myself from the wetness. The bus arrived, I ran up and made sure that the umbrella was closed. I sat down warmly and happy. Suddenly, a middle- aged Vermont woman, sitting across me, yelled at me, "ma'am, we don't use an umbrella with snow! Do you understand?" Almost every single passenger on the bus looked at me as if I came from the 18th-century world.
My face turned to the colour of a ripe tomato. She told me that in this state (or this country), it was not o.k. to use an umbrella to protect myself from the wetness. But I thought I had total "freedom" to do any thing I wanted in this country?
The ride to work was so long (really only 3 minutes) because of this awkward feeling of committing an inappropriate cultural mistake. I have never been in snow, of course, and I didn't know what to do with snow.
(Two years later) December 5th, 2007 - I was in Washington, DC. Today was the first snow day of the year. I left my office at around 6 p.m., and was busy comparing my first snow day in Vermont with my first snow day in DC. Then I saw a black man, in a nice suit, carrying a big umbrella, walk past me.
I stopped, laughed and smiled. "He must be crazy," I thought quietly.
But no he wasn't crazy. I kept walking, and to my utter surprise, almost EVERY single DC person in Dupont Circle on the way to the metro was carrying an umbrella to protect themselves from the snow!
How I love my umbrella, that Vermont woman, and the difference of perspective a small move in the United States can make!
TAN